What Do You Do?

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What do you do when someone you love has lost their mum?

When it’s left them so devastated that all they feel is numb?

What do you do when you see someone you love in pain?

When they feel so cold and empty that it’s driving them insane?

What do you do when you can sense the person’s fury?

When the injustice of a death should be tried before a jury?

What do you do when that person’s trying not to crumble?

When they’re trying to be strong but they soon expect to stumble?

What can you say to give some comfort and reprieve?

When they’re trying to be ‘normal’, to pretend that they don’t grieve?

What can you do when you know they’re trying not to shout?

And cry and scream and rant and rave, just to let it out?

What can you do when you see a strong person feeling lost?

An adult that’s a child inside wanting their mum at any cost?

What can you do to fill the hole that has been left?

By a person that was an anchor and has left their child bereft?

 

What do you do when someone you love has lost their mum?

I’m still trying to work it out because there is no rule of thumb.

What do you do when you see someone you love in pain?

I’m slowly figuring out that it’s just ‘being there’ in the main.

What do you do when you can sense that person’s fury?

I think that anger’s justified; they’re entitled to it, surely?

What do you do when that person’s trying not to crumble?

I’m a novice but I’m guessing that you catch them when they stumble.

What can you say to give some comfort and reprieve?

I’m sure that there are no words so be patient; let them grieve.

What can you do when you know they’re trying not to shout?

I’m new to this but bottling up can’t help, it needs to be let out.

What can you do when you see a strong person feeling lost?

I’ll bite my lip, try not to cry, wait until a painful line is crossed.

What can you do to fill the hole that has been left?

Accept you never will and hope that time will do the rest.

Crazy With Twins
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  1. I lost my mum just after my 21st birthday – she was 45. I was at uni and I just had to get on with it.

    We were so very close. I worry that I’m starting to forget what life was like when she was around.

    It was very emotional when my children were born. There were so many things I wanted to ask her and I know that she would have been amazing with them.

    • That’s so very sad; so young. Your children will know what your mum was like because no doubt you take after her in ways you may not even realise; the way she brought you up will influence you every day. In that way she will always be with you. Thank you for commenting; it’s made me very emotional to read your response. I just wish there was something I could say to make it easier xx

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